Of late, or almost always, while having sex, you are unable to reach that heavenly feeling called the BIG O!
You are not aware whether it’s a physical or psychological issue!
Well, your doctor can help when there’s a physical issue, and a sex therapist can teach you how to have orgasms when the problem is psychological.
Yet, the best judge is YOU and the solution lies with ONLY YOU!
Ok. Did you know that orgasms have a health meter?
Let’s talk about mental physical and sexual health!
Good mental and physical health = Good or even better orgasms!
Screwed mental and physical health = You can forget about the orgasms!
Sex is fun, feels good, and is a great way to be physically and emotionally close to your partner. But, without an orgasm, it can be a less satisfying experience for both people involved. There could be physical or emotional reasons why you’re not experiencing a sexual climax, but the right diagnosis and possibly sex therapy can teach you how to orgasm and have a satisfying sexual relationship.
Help is available for both sexes because this isn’t always a female orgasm issue.
While some women may have difficulty achieving an orgasm and may never have truly experienced one, men can have orgasm difficulties as well, especially if there are physical or emotional issues at play in the relationship.
Major Orgasm Related Problems People Face
- Not having an orgasm at all
- Having a delayed orgasm — taking a long time or needing a lot of stimulation to achieve orgasm
- Not having a satisfactory orgasm
- Delayed ejaculation
- Ejaculation without orgasm
Some Potential Causes Of These Problems In Women And Men Are
- A problem in the relationship
- Boredom in the bedroom
- An emotional or physical trauma, like rape or abuse
- Health conditions that affect nerves or hormone levels
- Being shy or embarrassed about sex
- Lack of education about orgasms, sex, and what stimulation works best for you
- Side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressants
Other Factors Include
- Fear can keep both sexes from experiencing orgasm. Fear of getting caught in illegal sex, fear of under-performance, fear of body odour, or any other fear.
- Also, physiologically, it may just be that you are not getting the right stimulation. If either a man or a woman is used to achieving an orgasm with his or her own hand, someone else’s touch and body part might seem strange.
Diagnosing the Problem
Many doctors and even certain therapists don’t have training in sexuality and sexual problems. If you’re experiencing difficulty achieving an orgasm, seeing a sex therapist may help root out the reason and get the right treatment. A sex therapist can also help determine if you’re having a physical problem, and recommend that you see a physician.
To help identify the problem, a sex therapist will ask about your sexual history. Be prepared for topics to include a frank discussion of your current partners, your masturbation practices, and the nature of your symptoms. A sex therapist will also ask about your expectations of sex and what you want to achieve in your sex life.
Solutions That Will Enhance Your Orgasm Health Meter
If there is a medical problem to blame, your doctor will prescribe the appropriate treatment. And if the cause is psychological, working with a sex therapist can help.
For Her
If you are a woman, you should learn how to orgasm by yourself and realize exactly what kind of stimulation it takes, including whether you need to fantasize in order to have an orgasm. Once you know physically that you needs ‘x’ amount of stimulation, you should look at what’s going on in your relationship. Are you comfortable asking for what you want? First, it’s physiological, and then it’s relational.
For Him
If you are a man, the process is similar. Masturbation processes involved and what feels different when you are masturbating than when having intercourse with a partner.
Common Solution
Part of the solution is the same for men and women, when it comes to sex: you’ve got to talk about it with your partner. If you want to achieve multiple orgasms and you feel uninhibited in the bedroom, you will be open about your wants and needs. There’s just no way to get from here to there without talking about it!
While it’s very normal to be embarrassed to talk about these intimate issues or be afraid of your partner’s reaction, yet, you have to open up. If you can’t relax because of some unresolved problem between you; even if it’s as small as that the house is in a mess and that bothers you, or some big agenda, you must address it if you want to have a satisfying sexual experience.
Talk about what you want, what you like, and what you need because if orgasm difficulties are affecting you, they’re also affecting your partner.
Talking about sex and intimacy will only bring you closer together, and help ignite the fireworks you’re looking for, in the bedroom.
Your orgasm health meter is right in your hands. Know it and work on it!
Have a fulfilling sex life!
