Is Your Boyfriend Pushing You For SEX?

It started off with casual dating.

You felt that you had finally found your dream man.

But then suddenly, you realise that his sole intention is to get you into bed.

Did it happen earlier than predicted? Is it coz he is the ultimate Adonis on the college campus?

You almost want to succumb to his subtle hints of ‘how much I love you babes’. But then you fathom all the tricks he’s playing to con you into giving in…and landing on his bed.

Here’s the list of tricks guys resort to get their girl to have sex with them.

SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY IS A MUST

My earlier non-committal boyfriends tried the same stunt. The last one made it very clear after two casual dates that he sought sexual compatibility to get to know me better. When I quizzed if all the girls he had earlier dated had slept with him, he replied in the affirmative. Probing deeper, I asked him. ‘What went wrong?’

All I got was a condescending reply, “She wasn’t good in bed”. Wow, so do you think it is worth being the next item number to impress this guy with your sexual prowess. No ways. Walking out of the relationship was a major kick to my second boyfriend’s inflated ego.

YOU ARE TOO NARROW-MINDED TO SAY ‘NO’.

Well, today’s Youngisthan girl has no qualms about pre-marital sex but I would definitely give a kick-in-the-rear to someone who calls me narrow-minded or outdated in my thinking. Today’s Youngisthan babe has a mind of her own. She knows when to cross the line, bridge the cap without making a fool of herself.

Counter attack this stud boy with just one question – “Does your sister too share the same ideologies about pre-marital sex?”

I SHOWERED YOU WITH GIFTS AND EXPENSIVE TREATS

Ohh, hellooozz.

Teri maa ki… what do you think? Did I ask you for all the gifts? I thought it was love, the unconditional love wala types. Guys, especially the cheapo types think that 1 picture ki outing, 2 coffee dates and 1 teddy bear as a gift and we are ready to do a strip show for them. The best way out is to go Dutch on your initial dates. Let the creep know that you are no cheap floozie who will dance to your tunes and do a tango to his bedroom.

YOU ARE STILL A BEHENJI WHO BELIEVES IN THE VIRGINITY DRAMA

When no tricks work on brainwashing your psyche or your decision not to sleep with your boyfriend, you will find him picking on you on the personal front. No longer would your fashion style appeal to him, your sense of humour becomes dry and then he claims you are the nerdy behanji who hasn’t moved on with the trends. Be ready for the taunts and brickbats but put your foot down rather than taking your legs up for this same guy whom you thought would be future mate.

I KNOW YOUR PAST SEX-TRACK RECORD

The ultimate threat in disguise which you need to be ready with is when he lists out your previous relationships. He claims that he knows the levels you went to on your dates with your casual friendship dates with others. Any decent guy wouldn’t dare to expose you on the intimate details to his friends. But yes, some of them do open their mouths and sprinkle dollops of garam masala to your relationship which went sour.

Having a Sex or no-sex relationship is always a matter of choice. We, the women of today, have our sensibilities in place. We know the right from the wrong.

Never, I repeat NEVER let your boyfriend force you into having sex.

If he loves you enough and wants you around, he knows that sex is important but definitely not mandatory. Always confide in your closest bestie who you know will guide you and never let the cat out of the bag.

If the jerk pushes you a bit too far, dump him. He isn’t worth even your flying kisses.