If You Are Doing These, You Are Cheating On Your Partner!

So, what do you define as cheating?

Lusting for someone else outside the relationship, or having sex with a colleague or a friend just for the heck of it? Or having lustful, romantic chats with someone other than your partner?

Are these the only form of cheating that wecan spell?

Well, if we go by the literal dictionary meaning, cheating is “the deprivation of something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.” Which clearly means, sex cannot be the only deprivation in a relationship.

I say, these days, there are a whole lot of things that couples tend to cheat each other on. The term relationship itself lacks direction today. Being in a relationship means dating; maybe twice or thrice a month, texting, connecting on social media, posting some lovey dovey pictures, and that’s it, “We are in a relationship”!

It is not realised that it isn’t a relationship at all. Something huge is missing.

Here’s how people cheat on their partners and remain completely unaware of their misconduct.

Lack of Communication And Expression 

The prime ingredient to a RELATIONSHIP is communication. When we know that we are in a relationship with that one specific person, who is not just another friend, we reserve a lot of emotions for that person. We ought to be expressive and vocal about them and display them every now and then. They need that reassurance from you, the assurance of love and intimacy. They should not be deprived of that. And if you don’t do that, aren’t you cheating on your partner?

Lack of Bonding Times Together 

Given the changing times and technology storming our lives; way beyond the acceptable limits, we have somehow accepted so may unacceptables. When we sit to eat, we are staring at the screens of our phones rather than looking at each other and appreciating the food in our plates. We fight and argue over texting and WhatsApp rather than finding time to meet personally and resolve the issues. Phones and technology have taken over the bonding times, more voraciously than we could imagine. Isn’t that cheating on the real meaning of a relationship? And what transpires? That we are happily involved in a relationship in which we are being cheated on, every day.

Lack of Passion In Bed 

When we think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person comes to mind, right? But what if your partner is having sex with you only, but you are busy calculating bills in the mind or thinking of next status update on Facebook, so that you get maximum likes or comments? It’s an ultimate situation in which the person you love is trying to make love to you, but you are in an entirely different world, ignoring his company and efforts at that very instance.  How about that? Won’t you call it cheating?

Well, sure to say that having sex outside the relationship is a conventional form of cheating, but, we have devised many contemporary ones, with the twisted lives we live today. We are cheating on our partners every day. Cheating them of love, of caring, of the time they deserve, of your expression they must experience, and the passionate moments they most take pleasure in.

And we rarely know that these sorts of cheating are causing more damage than any illicit sexual sexapades.

Lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and the consequent lack of love need to be corrected.

You need to take a minute to tell your partner, while making a passionate eye contact, that she’s beautiful.

You need to call your man after work to say, “Get dressed in 10 minutes. We are going for a drive and a dinner at a place very special”

Make an effort to bring back that old fashioned love and enliven the relationship.

Hold hands, open the car doors, pull the chairs, kiss on the cheeks and whisper sweet nothings, send flower bouquets, and have long walks together.

Give them the attention, love and compassion that they deserve and stop cheating on your partner every day!