Marriage, marriage decision – we all think it is one of the most important things in our life.
Keeping apart some of the ambitious people, everyone is getting married at an early age and is nowhere proving out to be good for any of them. Some people just get married for the sake of it while some are tied into this bond by their parents.
But do you think arrange marriages are the right way to get married?
Yes, you will be loved by your family and the so called society for that, but what about you?
Once you are tied into a relation without any feelings, you end up regretting it usually. Not talking about the successful marriage decision as they were pretty lucky. But what about the rest of the people who regret each and every second after marriage.
And if you are one of those who think no one regrets marriage decision, this lady’s answer will show you the reality.
“I am 31. Got married at an early age. I have been married for 11 years now. Have 2 kids. But yes, everyday of these 11 years was full of fake promises, lies, unromantic love life, no respect, no friendship, no trust. He is not a bad guy but he is a drug addict and promises me that he will quit but he doesn’t. I sacrificed my study and career just to get him on track because I was madly in love with him. He doesn’t even have any plan for his future. He is very soft spoken and can trap anyone with his talking skills.
But now I don’t care what he does, what he thinks about us. From last 2 years we don’t even have any physical relations, we just talk when we need to. I am with him because my kids love him a lot. I have started studying again, and concentrating only on my kids and our future.
I don’t know how successful I am in bringing him back on track in last 11 years, but I am successful in rediscovering myself. Let’s see where our relationship goes.
It was arranged marriage. I did not know about his addiction. The only thing I knew was that he drinks occasionally. And I believed it and had no problem with that. We met few times but as I mentioned he is not a bad guy and is very soft spoken and anybody can be his friend in minutes.
I came to know about his drug addictions 2–3 days after marriage. I had no idea that he is a drunkard because every time we met before marriage he behaved in such a way that he is very decent and responsible.”
She wanted to hide her identity, so she put up this post on Quora as Anonymous. But if you know anyone around you facing the same, it’s time for you to help them and respect them more than ever.
