Being ‘œNice Guy’ ‘“ A Boon or a Bane?

Have you ever been called “a nice guy” by a person of the opposite sex?

How do you react – do you blush or does it make you gloomy?

The reason why I am asking these questions is because girls go gaga over bad boys and it is prevalent in the society.

For instance, men like Ranveer Singh or Ranbir Kapoor, who are generalised as the bad boys in Bollywood, are stalked by girls.

Even in Hollywood, fictional characters like Barney Stinson, Han Solo or Johnny Castle are always surrounded by women.

I remember being labelled as a nice guy on several occasions and to tell you the truth, my heart sank every single time. “Okay, that’s it. You have been evaluated. There’s no line maro-ing this chick.”

Many men are kind, affectionate, caring and other adjectives that describe them as emotionally sensitive. I can never understand how a man lands in the nice guy category if he pulls up a chair for a lady, pays for a dinner course or holds the door for the lady to pass.

Nice guys, on the other hand, are also seen as steadier boyfriends, a better marriage partner and a platonic friend (…oh! please, somebody just kill me).

When you are nice, women making assumptions about you is a given. “I bet you haven’t gone bungee jumping yet.”…”Yes. I visit Rishikesh twice every year. People there know me as the harnessed Indian Spiderman. Judge me now!!”

Being intelligent, but less self-confident is another supposition for nice guys. They even assume that men belonging to this category are less sexually experienced and more interested in commitment.

Women’s choices differ when it comes to seeking a partner for short-term and long-term relationship. Where in the former case, they often choose physical attributes than niceness, in the latter case, their preference gets inverted.

When a woman says “he’s nice”, is it a polite rejection? Is this how the so-called “good guys” get friend-zoned? To think of it directly or rather in a snark manner, the woman actually says, “It’s never gonna be you.”

So, I have always wondered whether being a nice guy is enough or not. Apparently not. Nevertheless, it is not demotivational either, as the entire prospect can change at the crossroads of nice and dominant attributes.

Weigh your options to see the difference.